📚 The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner

Psychologist Harriet Lerner's self-help classic, first published in 1985, looks at anger as a signal worth listening to. She explores how women are often taught to silence, deny or vent their anger, and how understanding it can help change the patterns of close relationships.

Key Themes

• Anger as a signal worth listening to
• How women are taught to silence, deny or vent anger
• Finding the real sources of anger
• Family dynamics and the pursuer-distancer cycle in couples

Sissoo recommends this because it offers a calm, practical way to look at a strong feeling many of us learned to push away. It invites readers to notice the patterns they repeat with the people closest to them.

If you would like to talk through anger or relationship patterns with someone, you can explore Speaking & Listening Therapies.

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